He has two children and an ex-wife to whom he was married for less than a year but was with for seven years. I had a hard time getting used to the notion of him having children, but it no longer bothers me as much. I'm starting to like his kids, and I think I'll be able to get over it. He does, however, have a terrible ex-wife. She's extremely controlling and abusive toward him. He only stayed with her for a short time before leaving for college. During that time, they did not sleep together because she would go into hysterics if he ever touched her without permission. She'd call him every name in the book and hit him with anything she could get her hands on.
He has told me many times that he doesn't know what he'd do without these kids. They mean the world to him. And he should know, since they are his kids too.
His situation may not be ideal, but it's not my problem to fix. I just want him to be happy.
I'm 33 years old and childless, and he's 48 years old, divorced, and the father of three children. We constantly having arguments over his needy ex-wife and the detrimental influence she has on our relationship. Despite my best efforts to look mature and relaxed, I have a tremendous dislike for my ex-wife. She's very immature, doesn't understand anything about marriage or relationships, and thinks that just because her husband left her does not give her the right to control him every single day of his life.
She also acts like the mother of his children, which annoys me no end. My boyfriend claims that he still loves her even though they are divorced but will not commit to another relationship because he feels that she deserves better than what he can offer her. I really don't know how much longer we can stay together given all the issues between us.
I feel terrible for my boyfriend's ex-wife. She's a lost cause who won't ever get back with her husband because she wants someone to take care of her. At the same time, I can't help but wonder why my boyfriend isn't looking at me in the same way. Why would he want to be with someone who is so adultured while he stays close with his kids and needs? It makes no sense to me and it's causing a lot of problems between us.
Some divorced men with children do not wish to have any more children, therefore this must be factored in. [Read: 50 Relationship Questions to Determine Compatibility] 13th He might be traumatized. A bad marriage may be frightening. It may not be easy for him to trust again.
If you had children with another guy, you would want that man to be involved in your children's life just as much as your boyfriend does. He will have to communicate with his ex-girlfriend on occasion. Remember that your companion is also battling. It is difficult to start a new relationship with children.
The most crucial component of your relationship is this. Don't be concerned if he feels love or sympathy for his ex. It's quite normal. He adores his children, and as the mother of those children, his ex will always have a special place in his heart for them. Your partner's life is already filled with complications. You don't want to be the source of further anxiety or stress in his life.