It has been smashed by poor judgments, nasty words said in rage, or overreactions—sometimes by the parent, sometimes by the grandparent. It's a given that grandparents who have a good connection with their parents have access to their grandkids; grandparents who don't normally don't.
In most states, if you're married to the child's mother, she gives you permission to have contact with the child. If you're not married to the mother, then either she gives you permission or she doesn't. Some mothers may prefer that their boyfriends or husbands not have contact with their children, but they can't stop them from seeing their grandchildren. If the mother doesn't give her husband or boyfriend permission, then he can't take her to court for denying him access. He can still see his grandchildren whenever the mother takes them out or allows him to do so.
If the father of the child is married to another woman when he has children with his first wife, then those children are also entitled to support from their grandfather. The father can't refuse to let his daughter-in-law see her children, but he can't take them away from her either. She might not want her husband to have anything more to do with the children than just see them when he takes them out for visits.
If the father isn't married to the mother when he has children with another woman, then he has no legal right to see them.
The issue isn't often the grandmother who is hesitant, but rather the grandchild who is hesitant. Children who have loving ties with other grandparents may feel betrayed if their stepgrandparent status is granted. It may be beneficial for all parties to consider this connection in a somewhat different light. The stepgrandchild is not being disloyal to his or her biological family; he or she is merely respecting another set of parents who have been important in their lives.
In some states, there are laws that protect children from being taken away from their natural families. If a stepgrandchild refuses to see a stepgrandparent, it can cause problems for the relationship between those two individuals or even damage the legal rights that person might have as an heir.
In other words, children need to understand that they can always choose whom they want to share their life with. They cannot be forced to do so against their will, and nor should they be if it causes them emotional harm. If you're a parent or caregiver and are wondering how to handle this situation, remember that you cannot control your stepgrandchildren or their feelings. All you can do is provide them with a safe environment in which to grow up.
The most prevalent method of grandparenting Supportive grandparents visit their grandchildren regularly, do activities with them frequently, and provide emotional and material support, but they do not demand power in the child's life. In fact, they often argue with parents over how to raise their grandchildren. These grandparents feel that they are helping to give children a better life and try to encourage the same values in them that they believed were present in their own families.
Doting grandparents are just like supportive ones, but they give their grandchildren more freedom and allow them to make more of their own decisions. They may also provide more financial support than supportive grandparents. Doting grandparents want to be involved in their grandchildren's lives and take an active role in their education by visiting school events and sporting activities.
Protecting grandparents guard against abuse or neglect by children by taking them into their home if their own cannot be provided for them. They will also go to court to ensure that children are given the care they need. Protecting grandparents may even adopt children themselves.
Blaming grandparents blame children for the actions of their parents. They think that if only children had been better raised, they would have been given the opportunities they deserve. Blaming grandparents don't support children, they condemn them for the sins of their parents.
Grandparents' and Grandchildren's Legal Rights Unless there is a significant cause, parents cannot prevent their grandchildren from establishing a contact with their grandparents, according to the law. The law also protects grandparents' rights to see and communicate with their grandkids.
Parents can restrict or deny their children access to them if they choose to do so, but they cannot stop grandchildren from seeing or communicating with their grandparents. Parents may be able to get custody of their grandchildren or limit what kind of relationship the child has with their grandparents if they believe it would be in the best interest of the child. The decision to cut off contact with one's own parent due to old age is not recommended since it can have negative effects on the child's psychological well-being.
In some states, grandparents can seek visitation rights with their grandchildren. In most cases, grandparents must show that they have an existing relationship with the child and that it is in the child's best interest for them to see their grandparents. If you are a grandparent and want to visitate with your grandchild, first make sure that your state's laws allow for this type of visitation. If they do, then pursue visitation through the courts or other means as necessary.