Can a mother-in-law stay with you for a month?

Can a mother-in-law stay with you for a month?

If you're not completely comfortable with the notion of your mother-in-law remaining with you, knowing that she may stay indefinitely may make you feel even more uneasy. You want to know what the plan is, whether it's for a month or six months. Is she on the lookout for a job? For a smaller home, maybe in the area where your husband works? If none of these ideas appeal to her, then perhaps you should consider how much interaction there will be between you.

Even if you think the idea of a long stay by your mother-in-law isn't realistic, you should at least discuss options such as extending your wedding night or adding another day to your honeymoon. Maybe you'll decide on something less than a full month but more than just a visit. Whatever you decide, just make sure you and your husband are on the same page about it.

Of course, if your in-law issue has nothing to do with marriage or relationships but rather finances or parenting styles, you may need to find a way to work through it. Perhaps one person can go live with their in-law while the other stays put. Or maybe you could split the time between homes. The only way to know is to be honest with yourself about the root cause of your concern and figure out what can be done about it.

When should you get your mother-in-law out of your house?

Allow her adequate time. You don't want to be kicking your mother-in-law out in a month. Give her plenty of time to locate a new place to live, especially if money is an issue. Three months is sufficient, however a half-year may be preferable. Find her a place to live. If she refuses this advice, then it's time to look for another solution.

Your mother-in-law isn't the only one who needs to go home sometimes. Consider whether you could use some time alone too. Going through separation or divorce proceedings can be stressful for anyone. Discuss with your lawyer how much time you need to recover before you can consider moving out. Some lawyers allow you to stay in your mother-in-law's home while others require you to find other living arrangements first. Check with your lawyer to make sure you're understanding the rules correctly.

Finally, think about your mother-in-law's situation. She probably doesn't want to be kicked out. Try to understand why she might not be able to afford or find another place to live. You might be able to work out a deal where she stays with you for a certain period of time but has her own room and owns all her stuff. That way you both come out ahead.

The most important thing is to communicate with each other. Talk things over and come up with a solution that works for everyone.

What happens when your mother-in-law moves in with you?

While your mother-in-law is living with you, you will bear a greater responsibility and have less room to yourself. If you are concerned that your relationship or time for intimacy may be put on the back burner, you are not alone. So make time for those date evenings!

Your mom should also let you know if she is experiencing any health issues. If she tells you she has hot flashes or insomnia, make sure to offer her some remedies for these problems. Help her get rid of clutter in her home by cleaning together.

Finally, take time out for yourself. Go on vacation with your husband or spend the day shopping without guilt!

How to deal with a mother-in-law in your home?

Consider the benefits of having your mother-in-law in your home. Consider how much money you will save on child care or how much your children will appreciate spending time with their grandma. By focusing on the advantages, you will be able to ignore the drawbacks. Be willing to put up with tiny annoyances that you can deal with. For example, if she is making your bed every morning, let it go.

If you are stuck between leaving and staying, weigh the benefits. If the disadvantages outweigh the advantages, stay away from your in-law's house as much as possible without hurting their feelings. If they need help with something daily like cleaning, offer your assistance willingly.

In conclusion, consider the benefits before deciding whether to have her live in your home or not. If there are too many problems, look for another solution instead!

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Christina Giles

Christina Giles is a marriage counselor who specializes in couples therapy. She has been happily married for over 30 years and believes that communication, honesty, and love are the keys to any healthy relationship. Christina's mission is to help people find happiness in their relationships!

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