A "work husband" is a form of office spouse with whom you work and have a particular working connection. It may be extremely similar to the one you have with someone with whom you are intimate, like as your husband or lover. When I first heard the phrases "work husband" or "work wife," I thought to myself, "Oh hell no! I'm not having an affair with my boss!" But then I remembered that people do all kinds of weird things when they feel like it can't be done otherwise.
There are two types of work husbands: internal and external. An internal work husband works for the same company as his wife while an external work husband is employed by another company. Either way, there is a strong chance that they will meet at work. If she has a boyfriend or husband, he would be the one with whom she has the most contact at work - unless they have joint accounts or something similar.
Work spouses often find themselves in situations where they have to keep certain parts of their lives separate. This could be because they don't want to hurt each other's feelings, or because they fear what might happen if their careers started moving too fast together. Either way, it's important for work spouses to understand that being successful does not require the other person to fail. A successful couple can come together on projects or issues that require different skills or knowledge.
It's also important for work spouses to remember that their partners cannot be responsible for giving them a promotion or raise.
According to the job search site Simply Hired, a work spouse is a "colleague you have a good connection with, who is the gender you're attracted to, and with whom you have a bond that mimics that of a married couple."
In other words, a work-wife relationship is like any other marriage but without all the drama. It's not illegal in most states to be in a work-wife relationship, but it can cause problems for both parties if they don't know how to handle it.
Here are some signs that you may be in a work-wife relationship:
You call your colleague "husband" or "wife" even though they're not your husband or wife.
You share intimate details about your personal life including problems at home and in the office.
You spend more time with your work partner than with your family.
Your work partner has become an important part of your life, replacing your own family unit.
If you find yourself in this situation, you need to understand that there is no such thing as a work-wife relationship. It's called cheating in every state in the country. Even if you both hold down jobs and go to different places for each day's work, one of you isn't giving 100% to either position.
It's hardly surprising that many employees claim having a work spouse, given that work spouses are basically simply close buddies. According to a new poll conducted by the Society for Human Resource Management (SHRM), 25% of workers have a work wife or work spouse. That's about 42 million people in the United States.
Work spouses can be boyfriend/girlfriends, partners, or friends. They often help each other out with chores around the house and offer support when one partner needs it the most. Work spouses go beyond just friends - they can also be lovers. A small number of employees (1%) report having a sexual relationship with their work spouse. However, since only 1% of employees admit to this type of arrangement, it's likely that it happens more than what is reported.
Spouses who work at the same company as their husbands or wives usually call them "workmates." But if these spouses do not work at the same company, they are said to be "non-collaborative" spouses. Non-collaborative spouses cannot use the employee discount, apply for leave, or receive benefits such as health insurance. These arrangements can cause problems for both collaborative and non-collaborative spouses. Employees may feel like they are being excluded from important workplace decisions which can lead to resentment. Spouses may feel like they are being ignored or taken for granted which can lead to conflict.
Having a working wife on your side might be quite beneficial to your relationship. I counseled a relationship in which the lady had serious jealousy issues that, oddly, disappeared when she dated a man with a work wife. 1. He doesn't want you to meet his wife who works. 2. He spends more time with you than with her. 3. He doesn't bring her up in conversation. 4. He has no interest in meeting other women. 5. He seems pretty happy to have her support him through tough times at work.
This working husband helped soothe the jealously of his wife that, by extension, it made their relationship stronger.
I know several married couples where one or both parties make enough money to have a work-from-home job. They help each other out by taking care of certain responsibilities outside the home (paying bills, doing household chores) while also giving their marriage the attention and focus it needs.
In most cases, having a working wife is not a problem per se; however, if she brings out the jealous in your partner, then it's best to avoid this arrangement to preserve the health of your relationship.
The most important thing is that neither party feels disrespected or undermined.
If your husband begins meeting his "work wife" outside of office hours, you may be concerned that their professional connection may develop into anything more. If they're working on a large project with a tight deadline or if their employment necessitates out-of-hours interaction, there's little to worry about.
Because your husband regularly mentions a lady he works with, you have no need to be concerned if he seems uninterested in her life outside of work, proving that their connection is strictly professional. 3. He Assuages Your Concerns