It is possible to be friends immediately after a split, although it is uncommon. "Yes, it is possible to be friends with an ex shortly after the split," Celia Schweyer, dating specialist at Dating Scout, tells Elite Daily. "However, it does not mean that you should be seeing each other anymore. Being friends after the breakup means that you both realized what did not work about your relationship and you are now able to move on."
Sometimes, even though two people love each other and want to stay together, they just cannot make their relationship work. When this happens, it is important to realize that you were not meant for one another and should focus on moving on with your life.
Former couples who decide to be friends after their breakup usually do so because they know it will be difficult to get back into a relationship after the break up but still want to remain good friends. This shows that they still care about each other even if there is no chance of them getting back together.
Being friends with an ex can give you a false sense of happiness which will most likely end once they find someone new to spend their time with. If you are looking to rebound from a breakup then being friends with an ex is not the way to go about it.
After a split, you may be inclined to make contact with your ex. Attempting to form a friendship before you're ready, on the other hand, might cause more harm than good. According to Susan J., even if becoming friends with your ex is in the cards for you and your ex (spoiler alert: it isn't for everyone), it shouldn't happen immediately soon. "Letting go of the past and moving on means not contacting or trying to get back together with your ex," says Susan. "It's normal to want to keep some sort of connection with your ex after a break up but that doesn't mean you should try to force one."
If you do decide to become friends with an ex, it's important to both of you that the relationship stay friendly. If you don't, then eventually you'll run out of things to talk about and end up arguing again. For this reason, it's best to let time pass after a breakup before considering whether to become friends with your ex.
Friendship with an ex is feasible, according to experts, but there is a catch. You must both confess that you don't function well together as a relationship. Maintaining a healthy relationship after a divorce necessitates both parties "recognizing what worked about the partnership and what did not," according to Dr. Pamela Stephenson Stephens, a family therapist in San Francisco.
Exes can still have a positive impact on each other's lives even if they are no longer married or involved with each other. In fact, research shows that friendships after divorce help people deal with the emotional effects of their breakup and make moving forward with their lives easier.
Here are some tips for maintaining healthy relationships with your exes:
Have a clear understanding of each other's needs before you get divorced. It's important to know what your partner wants out of life so you can provide it to him or her after the marriage fails. Are they looking for love again? Is he or she just looking for someone stable to share their life with? Understand their needs and try to meet them; then you're more likely to stay connected even after the divorce is final.
Don't expect your ex to be your friend even though they were once part of your partnership. They aren't responsible for making you feel good about yourself or for giving you feelings of love. They are also not required to feel the same way about you.
To begin with, it will be nearly hard to be friends with your ex immediately following the separation. You'll be far too needy and really desire your ex. During the breakup, your highly emotional condition would cause you to act on impulse and do uncontrollable things. Your ex will no doubt blame themselves for the break up and feel guilty about it.
It is normal to want to keep some type of relationship with your ex. They were once your whole world, and now that they're out there living their life without you they must be feeling pretty lonely sometimes. Showing an interest in their life after the breakup will help them to feel like they are still important to you and not forgotten.
It's not that easy being friends with an ex. There are two sides to every story and your ex may see things about the breakup that you don't. Trying to be friendly with an ex that you once loved but now hate will only lead to more arguments and less time spent together. If you really want to be friends then you need to put yourself in their shoes first before trying to fix what isn't broken.
The best way to be friends with your ex is through text messaging. This way you can talk about anything and never have to face-to-face. It also gives you both some space away from each other so you can think about what you wanted to say without being interrupted.