With your tongue, test the waters. Kisses may be intense even without a tongue! Because tongue preference varies from person to person, the simplest method to find out what your partner is into is to just ask. "Adding the tongue should be a gradual, natural evolution," Allison explains. If you're not sure where to start, here are a few things that might help.
A kiss with no tongue is entirely acceptable. When you're ready to take it up a notch, open your mouth slightly wider and softly brush your tongue across your partner's. Allow the tips of your tongues to "play about" with one another. But don't go any further than that. It may be considered polite to refuse food before going in for a kiss, so be sure to let your partner know if they are tasting badly.
As for how many times you should repeat this action, that really depends on you. Some people prefer only to do it once while others love repeating the exercise over and over again. As long as you both agree that you had fun with the experience, then more power to you!
At first, try softly touching your tongue to your partner's. As though your tongues were slowly stroking each other. Don't poke your spouse with your tongue, and don't stick too much of it in their mouth. Just a few light caresses. If he or she likes what they feel/hear, then proceed to use more of it.
The aim is not to shove your tongue in as far as you can go, because that will only cause pain for you both. Stick to soft touches until you see how your partner reacts to it.
If you want him to kiss you back, you'll need to show interest in his mouth. Run your fingers through his hair, kiss him on the cheek, even eat one of his favorite foods—anything other than just staring at his mouth when you should be kissing him.
You may not get full-on tongue kisses yet, but you're closer than you think.
Kisses that engage your complete body, not just your lips, are the greatest! Wrap your arms around your spouse or use your hands to rub their arms, shoulders, and back. Place your body against theirs. Take your hands around their face or brush your fingers through their hair. And don't forget about their neck and shoulder area. Locks of hair often get tangled up in these sensitive spots.
The more you kiss, the more you will feel connected to your partner. This connection will help ease any tension or stress that may have arisen from your day. It also shows your spouse how much you care for them.
There are several different techniques used by couples when kissing each other. Some like to start with a gentle kiss while others like to go all out and give their spouses full-on tongue kisses. However, whatever technique you and your spouse decide on, just make sure you both enjoy it.
While kissing, slowly slide your tongue into his mouth. Before uniting your tongue with his, you may want to softly tickle his lips and/or the edge of his teeth (some guys find this quite seductive). When your tongues do come into contact, take a moment to see how he reacts. If so, continue kissing him like this. If not, back off before you both end up with bad tastes in your mouths.
Now that you have the basics down, you can start experimenting with different techniques and ideas. For example: instead of simply pressing your lips against his, try wrapping your arms around him too. This is a great way to show him that you love being close to him.
As for me, I love deep kisses that explore every corner of my mouth with our tongues. I also love when a man starts out gentle but by the end all his patience has flown out the window and he's taking control in the bedroom. He needs to know that I'm not easy to resist and that I want him as much as he wants me.
The more you practice, the better you'll get at giving and receiving deep kisses. So next time you're sitting across from your boyfriend or husband, slip your tongue inside their mouth and see what they think!
If you're looking for a full-on make-out session,