Can you love someone so much that you hurt them?

Can you love someone so much that you hurt them?

Hurting the People You Care About Those we love the most are the ones who can harm us the most. This is not because they mean to harm us; rather, we love them so much that even the tiniest piercing tone may puncture our hearts. This is a typical aspect of our most important emotional interactions. We feel pain for those we love, and this is what keeps them at a distance from us.

The people who mean the most to us are usually the ones we can't live without, but who could kill us just as easily. They impact our lives so profoundly that they change us forever. We would do anything for them, including risk our lives for them. The people in this category include family, friends, and lovers. There are times when we care about someone so deeply that we can't help but worry about them. If you were to ask me what I think about when I go to sleep at night, it's these people who come to mind first.

I also think about the fact that we can love someone so much that they can affect us emotionally into adulthood. I know I still cry when I think about my mother. When I was younger, I expected her to be around forever, but now that I'm older she'll be gone before I know it. I will never forget how much I loved her even though I knew she couldn't love me back.

Do people hurt the ones they love?

In truth, some people are unable to avoid harming others they care about. In reality, we frequently do harm to our loved ones because we do not feel "safe" and secure in the connection. Why does causing harm to others make us feel safe? When we injure someone for no reason, it is because we are afraid of being rejected or disconnected from that person. In other words, when we hurt those we love, we are trying to keep them close where we can protect ourselves by not being trusted.

People will always try to hurt those they believe to be protecting them. For example, if you were to lock your car door after getting out, this would mean that no one could get into your car without you knowing it. If someone broke into your car while you were locking the door, this would show that you believed there to be something dangerous inside and so you protected yourself by not letting anyone come near.

We often think that hurting those we love keeps them close to us where we can protect them. But actually, what we're doing is keeping them away so that we don't have to face our fears. The next time you find yourself wanting to cause someone pain, remember that it is only because you want to keep them away from you.

Why do I keep hurting the one I love?

We believe that by retaliating, they will show us more affection, attention, or understanding. However, the only person who can truly forgive us is God, because we cannot take responsibility for other people's actions.

The best way to not hurt those you love is to be sure their feelings are taken into consideration before acting. If you want your partner to stop doing something that makes you angry, tell them why it upsets you. Ask them how they would like you to deal with their behavior, and let them know exactly what you would prefer them to do. Only then will they understand that you are just trying to protect their feelings.

If you suspect that a friend is trying to hurt you, talk with them about your concerns. Tell them how you feel, and ask for their opinion. You should also consider asking a priest or pastor if there is a Catholic Church near you where you can go for advice and support.

Last but not least, try to remember that everyone you love gives you trouble at some point. It is not your fault when you get hurt by those you care about the most. Remember that even though revenge feels good in the short term, it will only make you feel worse in the long run.

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Barbara Bennett

Barbara Bennett loves to help others with their relationships. She has a background in psychology, which she studied at the University of Michigan. Barbara likes to spend her free time reading books about relationships or helping people write love letters for their partners to spice up their love-life.

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