It does, really. It appears when you are going to enter a new relationship, when you are about to start from scratch. You're terrified of disclosing your secrets to someone new. And yet, you need to do it. You can't go on like this forever.
When CP first comes into your life, you're blinded by its brilliance. You think that only you could be so in love. You believe that no one else could possibly feel the same way you do. After all, how could they? No one has ever died loving them?
But as time goes by, you begin to realize that CP isn't a good thing. You start noticing other people who have been through similar situations, and they seem to be doing just fine without it. They may not admit it, but it's clear that they're not afraid to commit to something.
The more you get involved with CP people, the more trapped you become. They don't want help, so there's nothing you can do for them. And since they're not willing to change, you should avoid them like the plague.
Commitment phobia affects men and women equally. However, it is common for CP individuals to be female.
People with commitment phobia usually fall in love easily.
"Fear of commitment may arise in dating and even in marriage when one or both parties are hesitant to completely participate emotionally in the relationship," according to expert Preston Ni, M.S.B.A. Concerns might stem from prior dating experiences, worry about the future, or simply a lack of significant relationships. If you're afraid to make yourself vulnerable, don't force her to do so first.
Commitment can be a scary thing for some women. They may fear being used as a means to an end, rather than seeing their partners as individuals with their own desires and needs. The only way for such a woman to get over her fear is by getting to know someone well enough that there's a real chance she could be hurt if things go bad. Only then would she be willing to take the risk.
There are also women who are afraid of being controlled, especially by men. If a woman doesn't feel like she has any control over her life, she will never be happy. She might feel like she's not doing anything wrong by being indecisive about marriage and love, but it's really just a form of self-negation.
Finally, there are women who are afraid they'll lose themselves in a relationship. Sometimes, they find themselves in marriages where they aren't recognized at all by their husbands. They might feel like they've lost their identity if their partners can't accept them for who they are.
However, when anything goes wrong, love may bring a great deal of sadness and worry. Many relationships have ended due of commitment anxiety. When you have a commitment-phobic spouse, you may begin to question every element of your relationship with them, and sometimes even yourself. You may feel as though you are walking on eggshells around them because of the fear that something will go wrong.
People with this problem often say that they don't want to put themselves out there because they can't predict what might happen. If someone has you pinned under their thumb, it's hard to escape their grasp. Even if you do find a way out, they're not going to let you go. This person has too much control over your life; you have no freedom whatsoever.
Commitment phobia can cause many problems in a relationship. If you are in such a situation, it's time to take action before it's too late. See a psychologist or therapist so you can work through this issue together.