One of the main reasons that some couples regret their choice to elope is because their experience on the day and the images they received fell short of their expectations. They felt like they were missing out on something special because they didn't want to be surrounded by family and friends, but at the same time, they were also afraid to ask for help from others.
Another reason that comes to mind is that after they witness other couples' weddings, they feel like they aren't unique enough. Even though there are many similarities between any two people married in the United States, they believe that only someone who experiences life together could understand what they mean when they say "I do."
Finally, they may regret not taking more time to plan because after all, marriage is a big deal and you shouldn't rush into it without thinking through everything carefully.
If you're one of these couples then we know that you've probably already been through this so we won't waste your time with talking about how difficult and painful this process was for both of you. The fact is that most couples who choose to elope come to realize later on that it was the right decision for them. You should always do what's best for you as an individual and your relationship.
Many of the couples we spoke with claimed that the ability to focus on private, meaningful moments on their wedding day was the major reason they opted to elope. They didn't think a larger, more traditional wedding would provide them with those opportunities. They're definitely on to something! Eloping allows you to spend your time together doing things you can't do at a bigger event -- like taking photos, having a first dance, saying "I do" before a judge who can't refuse to marry you, and so on.
Other reasons included a desire to keep costs down, avoid crowds of people, and give their marriage a special start. An elopement can also be a great way for a couple to say "I do" without being pressured into getting married just because it's popular or expected of them.
Some couples chose to elope because they wanted to have a small, intimate ceremony with just their family and close friends present. This allows them to express their feelings toward each other and celebrate the love they feel for one another in a unique way. It also gives them room to try out new dress styles and cake flavors without worrying about what everyone else is wearing or eating.
Finally, some couples chose to elope because they were afraid they wouldn't be able to find a priest or minister willing to perform their wedding ceremony.
It is easy to grow overwhelmed and stressed. Eloping relieves tension and helps you to begin your life on an incredible trip. The majority of couples who want to elope want a day that symbolizes their relationship. They're cool couples that cherish a genuine experience that they'll remember for the rest of their lives. Eloping can be as simple or extravagant as you want it to be.
The most common reason for eloping is because of cost. Eloping can be done for as little as $150 or as much as $20,000. It all depends on how romantic you want your ceremony to be and what kind of personu will pay for it. If you can't afford a wedding party, that's okay. Just get married by a judge in the state where you live. It doesn't have to be a church service with a preacher if you don't believe in God.
Some couples choose to elope so they can focus on each other instead of spending money on a wedding party. Others elope because they think it will make their marriage stronger if they go through with it. No matter why you're eloping, it's your decision and no one else's. You should only do something if you're willing to fight for it until the end. Even if you call it off, some people still want to charge you money for the experience.
There is less rivalry and less of a need to outdo your friends' weddings when you elope. Many couples even compete with their friends and family to have the nicest wedding. If things don't go as planned, this can generate a lot of tension and potentially destroy the day. But if that happens to you, at least you didn't spend any money or time planning something fake.
Eloping allows you to spend your time and energy planning and enjoying your special day instead of worrying about what other people think.
It also gives you more control over how your wedding looks like. You can choose whatever style you want, from simple to very elaborate. And you can design your own dress (or not). You can use photos and items from around the house to create a look that's unique to you.
You'll have a smaller ceremony than most couples. Often, only your spouse-to-be is in attendance. There are no flowers, no music, and no reception following the ceremony. But these marriages tend to be very strong and lasting.
People often ask me if it's better to elope than have a small wedding. It really depends on you and what you want from your wedding. If you want to have a nice day with your family and friends, then an elopement is for you.