Nour told TODAY, "Romance will never endure a lifetime." You must recognize that falling in love is merely a phase that will pass. If you embrace it, you will have fewer divorces and happier individuals. "Love is not just a feeling but a commitment to each other for better or worse until one of you dies," she said.
So yes and no. It depends on how you look at it. If you're looking at it from a scientific point of view, then no. But if you're looking at it from something deeper than that - like a commitment - then perhaps yes.
The easiest part is falling in love with someone. How can you be truly in love with someone for such a long time? It's certainly feasible, according to experts. "Relationships can endure a lifetime when each individual is ready to wade through the muck to get there," says relationship counselor Jenna Ponaman, CPC, ELI-MP to Bustle. "It takes work but it is possible."
New studies show that relationships do actually get better with age. A study published in August 2017 by researchers at University of California, Los Angeles found that marriages that start out rocky tend to get better over time, while those that begin on the ideal foot are more likely to last forever. The study also found that men experience most of this improvement before they turn 40 and women don't really see any change after they reach 60.
So yes, you can stay in love forever if you want to. Just like anything else in life, though, things may become harder as we grow older. There will be times when you don't agree, times when you fight, but that doesn't mean that love has gone away.
And marital discontent is frequent among those who stay together. Romantic passion tends to dissolve into camaraderie and a love more akin to friendship than to that of a pair in love in long-term relationships that do thrive. As one man explained it: "In the beginning, we were lovers. Then we became friends. Then roommates. Now we're just husband and wife."
The emotional bond between two people in love becomes even stronger over time. But it isn't necessarily eternal. In fact, according to research conducted by psychologist John Gottman at the University of Washington, marriages that survive past age 50 are rare because love fades over time.
The study followed nearly 500 married couples for an average of 15 years. It turned out that men's love songs faded faster than women's, but both sexes' passions declined at about the same rate. By the end of the study, only 40 percent of marriages remained happy, and only 4 percent survived completely intact up until the last couple was interviewed at age 60 or older.
Gottman says there are three main factors that lead to the demise of a marriage: conflict, commitment, and satisfaction.
Conflict occurs when opinions differ on issues such as finances, parenting, and leisure activities.
Everyone only has three opportunities to fall in love, so make the most of them. We keep falling in love and breaking up throughout our lives, sometimes just to get back together again. Some individuals join our circle, while others leave, causing us to experience extreme emotional ups and downs we never imagined imaginable. However, regardless of how many times you fall in love and get divorced, there is always a chance that you will one day be married with children of your own.
People in love are often called "in love". But what is love? Is it just an emotion? Does everyone feel love? To find out, let's look at some examples. Love is an intense feeling of affection for someone else. It is also something that every human being wants but cannot do by themselves. Only God can give you love, and he does so through other people. Everyone loves something, someone. Even if they don't show it, they want others to know how much they care about them. The more people you meet, the more ways you will see that love exists in this world.
So yes, everyone falls in love. It's a natural thing for human beings to do. And whether you are married or not, loved or not-loved, young or old, if you have ever felt love at all, then you have fallen in love.
Movies try to persuade us that we will always feel this way, but the intensity of passion has an expiration date for everyone. According to Dr. Fred Nour, a neurologist in Mission Viejo, California, and author of the book "True Love: How to Use Science to Understand Love," expect the passion to endure two to three years at best. After that, he says, it's time to move on to something new.
In reality, love is not a finite resource. You can't run out of it even if you shoot your shot and get what you want. But just like with any other human emotion, such as hate or jealousy, over time it does fade away. At first, you may not be able to explain why you feel the way you do around someone, but after some time has passed you will most likely understand that there was a reason beyond their appearance or personality traits. Even though you may not want to accept it, their absence doesn't remove the memories you have of them from your mind.
So next time you're wondering whether your love will last four years, remember that movies are not real life and love does not last forever. It's perfectly normal to feel passionate about one person for quite some time, but it wouldn't hurt to explore other options too.