Father-son relationships are as fraught with expectations and worries as mother-daughter connections. For a long time, a son idolizes his father. When a kid learns his father is nothing more than a mortal and imperfect man, he begins to express his own identity and challenges his father's authority and wisdom. At the same time, a son needs his father's approval and love.
A father wants to see his son succeed in life, but that can be difficult when the two are at odds with one another. A son may feel his father doesn't support him, or worse, that he should be doing better than he is. This can be especially painful for a son who has always looked up to his dad.
When things go wrong in a father-son relationship, it can be hard for both parties to work through their issues. But if they're willing to put in the effort, father-son bonds can be some of the most powerful connections we make in our lives.
Generally, the boy is constantly drawn to his mother. Father-son relationships slow down, yet the father wants his son to avoid making the same mistakes he has, whether in a profession, with a partner, or elsewhere. He is looking for a companion for his son. A parent is always looking for his son's support. Even if the father works long hours, he makes an effort to find time to play with his son.
If the father is absent from the son's life, he will feel lost and helpless. The father's presence is essential for the growth of a healthy personality. It is through his example that his son learns what behavior is expected of him.
The father can show his love for his son by treating him with respect and giving him opportunities to learn new things. He should also allow the son to see that he values his opinion. If the father shows anger towards his son, it will only hurt the relationship even more. Only when the father treats his son with love and affection will he develop into a responsible adult who knows how to handle these types of relationships.
The parent is incapable of adapting to new conditions. He is worried by the fact that his son is emotionless. He wants to mend their connection, but it appears that his son is not making any efforts to do so.
The problem lies in the fact that the father cannot understand how his son could have changed like this after all they had shared together. He feels responsible and this makes him feel miserable. Then why can't he just let go and move on?
This question really hits home for me because I struggle with it myself. My dad left my mom when I was very young and since then we have never been close. I don't even know if he is alive anymore. I want to connect with him but I don't know how. All I ever get from him is criticism and guilt which only makes me shut down even more.
Mother-Son Relationships that are Dysfunctional A mother-son connection may be emotionally draining. It is also sensitive. Shortcomings in the boy's upbringing or unfavorable conditions endured by the mother might sour the bond.
However, when the boy develops from a newborn to a man, his display of love alters. A mother is a child's primary caregiver throughout their early life. The earliest physical and emotional bond between mother and son is formed immediately after delivery.
When children enter puberty, the desire to mimic their father appears to fade. The rebellious hormones aren't interested in the elderly man's knowledge. Most young teens wish to be apart from their fathers. Relationships built on love and trust are stretched and denied. The need to emulate him remains but it is not focused on his skills so much as his role in making them feel important.
The teen years are a time of experimentation. They want to know how things work and they find this out by doing. Fathers can help by allowing them to make mistakes, then showing them what works and what doesn't.
Fathers can also teach their sons by example. If someone has done something impressive or worthwhile, others will want to copy them. Sons will look up to their fathers and follow their lead. This is why it is important for fathers to set good examples for their sons.
Finally, fathers should never forget that their sons are still children at heart. Even though they are trying to become men, they will always crave their mothers' attention and protection. Give your son a loving home where he feels safe and secure, and he will have nothing to do with violence.
As long as there are boys who need their fathers to learn what life is all about, there will be needs for Father's Day.