So, to address your questions regarding what to do and whether you can win him back, first acknowledge that you are currently single. It may seem counterintuitive, but when women obsess on a male (or, even worse, a certain outcome with a guy), they undermine their mood and capacity to be appealing. So don't do this.
Next, understand that it's normal for someone you've dated seriously for several years to still feel like the love of your life. Even if you think there's another guy out there who is better in every way, he isn't. He just feels that way because you two were close enough to date for so long. And now that he has moved on, it's natural for him to want to keep things light and fun instead of heavy and serious.
Finally, know that it's possible to get him back. If you really wanted to, you could win him back. But considering that this guy knows you better than anyone else does at this point and doesn't believe you're over him, why would he want to return to that state?
The most effective thing you can do is let go and move on with your life. Forget about him, especially since he hasn't taken the time to forget about you.
Working on yourself is the finest method to retaliate against someone who has wronged you. Get in fit and keep going forward. If your ex understands that you don't need him to be happy, that will enough as retribution. Take proper care of yourself.
A effective ex-boyfriend rehabilitation process begins with you, with your behaviors and state of mind, in order to re-create the woman who charmed him at the outset of your relationship. So the last thing you want to do is seem weak or continue to grill him about the other lady he is currently seeing.
The first step in rehabilitating your image as a girlfriend is not to act like one. If he thinks that you will simply roll over and take his abuse again, then he will only pull away further. Showing fear or giving in will only encourage more harsh treatment and will cause your ex-boyfriend to believe that he can bully you with no consequences.
It is important to remember that while you were dating an abusive man, he was using his behavior to control you. He was able to get away with murder because you let him. Don't make the same mistake with his current girlfriend. If he has shown signs of violence toward you, don' t hesitate to seek help from a professional counselor who can guide you through difficult situations with wisdom and experience.
In conclusion, stay strong and never give up! An ex-boyfriend cannot treat you with disrespect and still have a future with you. You deserve better than this!
Accept it. You miss him and long for his return. There's only one problem: you've been so lovesick that you appear to have been fired out of a cannon... straight into a brick wall. Your attitude is low, you look like a slob, and you have no idea how to win him back without being desperate. Yet another thing: you're still seeing someone else!
The most important thing is that you make sure that when he comes back your mind is not on someone else. You love him and you should try to work on yourself until you are ready to get back with him.
If you really want to win him back then you need to understand that this requires some work from both you and him. He has to feel like you want to get better and that you are working hard on yourself. This means that you should stop doing things that hurt him or drag him down and start living in the present instead of looking forward to something that may or may not happen later.
You also need to change some of your habits and behaviors. For example, if you always text other people when he is around then you should stop because this shows that you are still thinking about others rather than just you. You should also spend more time with him so that he feels like you have changed for the better.
Last but not least, you need to be honest with yourself about what is keeping you from winning him back.