A drama-prone buddy may be tempted to instigate a conflict with your ex. Choose a companion who is normally calm and composed, even in difficult times. If your ex is making it difficult for you to get your belongings, call a friend or family member of your ex with whom you are friendly. They could be willing to assist you. Your ex might try to steal your friend's feelings by telling them that you are still together.
Your friend will be able to confirm whether or not your ex is actually giving you space and will know how to deal with your ex if/when they fight with you over your belongings.
If your ex won't give you your belongings back, you'll have to take matters into your own hands. Contact an attorney to make sure you don't violate any laws when trying to get your belongings back. An attorney can also help if there are other issues with the separation such as child custody or alimony that aren't being resolved properly without your input.
In conclusion, getting your stuff back from your ex isn't easy but it can be done. Have faith in yourself and your ability to resolve things peacefully. Don't let your ex keep you from moving on with your life.
When an ex goes out of their way to be close to you, it's a sure indicator that they'll return. You see that they are making an effort to contact and message you, that they propose hanging out, and that they are even coming to you for advice on topics that they could ask anybody else.
Your ex calls you to claim they want to return your stuff, then vanishes for weeks, or contacts you about something of theirs that you have, or to repay money you owe them (items or money they don't really want back). I want "my things" back one day, they want you to keep it the next, and then it's back to them wanting it back.
There are a zillion methods to detect whether your ex is lying about being over you. If you have the opportunity to visit your ex in person, these are the most obvious symptoms to look out for. It's critical not to misinterpret his or her discomfort or scorn for a hint that your ex is trying to be over you.
You could simply want to preserve all of your ex's presents and stuff because you enjoy them. However, as tempting as it may be to retain your former's warm college crewneck, giving items back to your ex after a split might be a lot less traumatic than having an ex-stuff lover's lingering around your apartment.
If you still love your ex even after they've moved on, then there's no need to keep their gifts. Instead, donate them or throw them out. You should feel good about yourself for not wanting to keep your ex's memories or reminders of past events with them.
What are my options if an aggressive ex-boyfriend refuses to return my personal belongings?
The steps to reclaiming your property are outlined here. When your ex refuses to return your personal stuff, you may feel compelled to respond. It is not in your best interests to do so. Your ex may feel entitled to your belongings because you are no longer living there and left the items behind when you first moved out.
List the objects and your reasons for claiming them, and set a deadline for your ex to contact you or the situation will be escalated through legal methods. If he/she does not contact you to schedule a handover, I recommend filing a theft case with the police. Perhaps a visit from them can persuade your ex to return your items.
This is only what should be done if your ex-girlfriend/boyfriend has taken your belongings without your consent. If you think she/he has been stealing from you, then call the police immediately so they can start an investigation.
So here's what you'll need to do: