How can you tell if your ex is manipulating you?

How can you tell if your ex is manipulating you?

Your ex calls you to claim they want to return your stuff, then vanishes for weeks, or contacts you about something of theirs that you have, or to repay money you owe them (items or money they don't really want back). I want "my things" back one day, they want you to keep it the next, and then it's back to them wanting it back. This goes on and on until you give up your stuff willingly.

Manipulators use guilt to get what they want from you. They may say they are sorry and ask for forgiveness, but that's just fake remorse designed to get you to do what they want. Real abusers are not sorry for their actions; they just want you to go away so they can continue being abusive. Abusers try to make you feel bad about yourself if you leave them so that you will stay with them.

If someone you know, or even if you don't yet, shows signs of abuse, take action now. Contact a local support group or hotline to find help.

How can you tell if your ex is power-playing?

Power play: Your ex contacts you to see whether you are still thinking about them and/or want them back, and if you don't take the bait, they contact you about something else or create some sort of drama to get you to respond.

Your ex calls you to claim they want to return your stuff, then vanishes for weeks, or contacts you about something of theirs that you have, or to repay money you owe them (items or money they don't really want back). I want "my things" back one day, they want you to keep it the next, and then it's back to them wanting it back.

How do you tell if your ex has feelings for you?

Signs that your ex still cares for you

  1. They keep texting or calling you.
  2. They follow you on social media.
  3. They don’t return your stuff.
  4. They contact your friends, or their friends contact you.
  5. They cross your path.
  6. They get jealous or want to make you feel jealous.
  7. They are not moving on.

How do you know if your ex likes someone else?

7 Signs Your Ex Is Dating Someone Else

  1. They show it in social media.
  2. You hear it from your mutual friends.
  3. They suddenly stop talking to you.
  4. They return your belongings.
  5. You have someone else, but it doesn’t bother them.
  6. They indirectly try to tell you that.
  7. They’re constantly texting someone.

How do I manipulate my ex's coming back?

Put them to use, and you'll see your ex return to you.

  1. Make Your Ex Think That You Don’t Want Him or Her Back.
  2. Don’t Change Their Mind.
  3. Appear Happy Not Depressed.
  4. Turn the Tables; Make Your Ex Feel Like the Dumped One.
  5. Have Stories to Tell; Animate Your Life.
  6. Be How You Were, Not How You’ve Been.

When do you know your ex is warming up to you?

If you've been the one to initiate contact, your ex starting to initiate contact (on a frequent basis) is a good indicator that they're warming up to you and accepting responsibility for keeping communication open.

Contact is severed for good. After all, there is generally a reason for a relationship to end, and the best way to get over someone is to avoid seeing them. So, if your ex continues to contact you after you've formally broken up, take it as a hint that they eventually want to restart things.

How do you tell if an ex is leading you on?

Your ex is simply leading you astray.

  1. Your ex continually asks you to do him some favors despite the fact that he has a new partner.
  2. Your ex wants to be physically involved with you.
  3. Your ex does not return your favors.
  4. Your ex leaves you when you ask for his commitment to you.

How do you get your ex’s attention via text?

How to Recover Your Ex Boyfriend Using Text Messages

  1. Follow the no contact rule for at least 4 weeks.
  2. Send him something happy and light to show you’re in a positive place.
  3. Rouse his intrigue by texting him about something cool or exciting you did recently.

About Article Author

Christi Peoples

Christi Peoples is an accomplished relationship counsellor. Her work with couples, families and individuals has been recognized by her peers and she has received prestigious awards for excellence in counselling skills. Christi also volunteers at a local shelter where she teaches children about healthy relationships and how to deal with trauma through play therapy sessions.

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