If you are in love with a narcissist, you will notice that they are always self-absorbed and self-centered. They expect you to meet their immediate requirements. They may argue with you if you don't respond to their calls and messages right away or if you don't do things their way. A narcissist doesn't care about your feelings or what you want.
Narcissists are very charming and can make you believe that they love you forever. They are able to distract you from your goals by giving you attention. You will feel happy when he/she smiles at you. However, this is just an act for public consumption. Behind closed doors, the narcissist hates yourself just as much as you do.
They may act like they need you but that's only because they think it will make them look good. In fact, they would be happier if they didn't have to worry about you. Narcissists lack empathy - they can't understand why anyone would want to leave them otherwise fine people.
The best way to tell if a person loves you is if they're willing to change for you. A narcissist won't change unless forced to. They rely on their looks to get what they want and if you break up with them, they will move on to another victim more likely believing that no one is perfect.
During the first few months of a relationship with a narcissist, they often become everything the other person is searching for in a companion. They lavish the individual with care, attention, and presents. This is called their "love bombing" strategy to win over their partner.
Narcissists are egotistical and believe that they are worthy of respect and admiration. So by showering someone with attention and love, they hope to make them feel important and secure. This allows the narcissist to gain access to their partner's inner world.
Love bombing can work for some time because it gives the partner the feeling that she is special and loved. This is why most victims stay in the relationship longer than they should. They just don't see the damage that the narcissist is doing until it's too late.
The love bombing phase will end when the partner begins to question or reject some aspect of the narcissist. For example, if the partner starts to ask questions about his or her past, this would be seen as a rejection of the narcissist. The narcissist may then stop loving bombing him or her.
There are two types of narcissists: those who love bomb and those who exploit.
In their relationships, narcissists employ a variety of emotionally manipulative methods. If you are not this type of person and are more innocent, you may be pulled into relationships with narcissists simply because you lack the capacity to recognize what they are up to in the early stages.
The narcissist's main goal is to get others to fulfill their needs. They will use any means possible to achieve this end, including becoming intimate with those they seek to exploit. It is because people are drawn to narcissists that they must be aware of how to manipulate this instinct so as not to be caught unaware when the relationship ends.
People are attracted to narcissists because they offer something that other people cannot or will not give them. Whether it be attention, value, submission, or power, many people are looking for these things from their partners. Narcissists have a need for admiration and love, which only certain individuals can provide.
A narcissist will do anything they can to keep others interested in them. This includes being attractive, talented, creative, and successful. Even if you aren't interested in narcissists at first glance, you might be tempted by one once they have shown themselves to be desirable.
Narcissists are able to grasp opportunities quickly and easily fill their lives with exciting experiences that attract others.
According to psychologist Ramani Durvasula, Ph. D. in her interview, Speaking of Psychology: Recognizing a Narcissist, the difficult part about a relationship with a narcissist is that they frequently run on hope. Life will never go better unless your narcissistic partner is prepared to put in a lot of effort in counseling. They need to understand that you can't make someone change who they are inside.
Narcissists often have extremely high expectations of themselves and others. If they ever feel disappointed or if you tell them something isn't going their way, they tend to withdraw from the relationship. They may become angry or argue with you to prove how wrong you are for saying such things.
Narcissists also have a hard time accepting responsibility for their actions. Even when they know they've done something wrong, they often try to shift the blame onto you or else feel humiliated.
Finally, they rarely admit they're wrong. If you try to convince a narcissist that they need to change something about themselves, but they won't listen, then there's no point in arguing with them.
The hardest thing about having a relationship with a narcissist is that they frequently run on hope. Life will never go better unless your narcissistic partner is ready to put in a lot of effort in counseling.