1. You don't hear from them on a regular basis. You may have tried to contact them for days or even weeks without receiving a response. No one is too busy to answer to every message you send, so if you're constantly ignored, it's likely that they're avoiding you.
2. They don't return your calls or messages. If you try to reach out to someone and don't receive a response, it could be because they're either too busy or not interested in talking with you. Don't take it personally; they probably just need time to themselves.
3. They don't stop by to see you. Even if you're both working at the same place, wouldn't it be nice if everyone who was busy worked together to create more time, or if everyone who didn't want to talk worked out so you didn't have to force the issue? Most people would love this opportunity but it doesn't always happen. If you don't receive any indication that your visitor is willing or able to spend time with you, then they most likely aren't available to meet up.
4. They don't show up at events/appointments. If you make an effort to get to know someone and then they don't respond to you or come through when you need them, it's probably because they're too busy. Some people prefer to stay in the background while others feel comfortable taking the lead.
Regardless of why you're being ignored, the worst thing you can do is hound the person all the time. Don't bombard them with texts, calls, or questions about why they're ignoring you. Allow them some time to process how they feel and how, or if, they want to contact you. If they don't contact you within a reasonable amount of time, it's okay to move on.
Here are five signs that it is occurring to you.
When they suddenly don't respond to their SMS, we often invent reasons for them. If you notice that someone is ignoring your texts, simply stop texting them. This individual is not worth your time. It's never worth your time to listen to their passive-aggressive nonsense.
The fact that they are ignoring you means that they either don't want to talk to you or they can't get away with it. Most likely, they don't want to talk to you. Sometimes people just want to be left alone. If you can't take no for an answer, then perhaps you shouldn't text someone you aren't close to.
If they don't want to talk to you, then why would you want to talk to them? They are obviously not interested in talking to you so there is no point in continuing the conversation. The only person who might feel bad about this is you, if you're being ignored.
It's important to remember that people have different levels of interest in communicating with others. Some individuals are very social and will always want to talk about what everyone is up to, while others prefer their own company. Trying to force someone to talk when they don't want to isn't going to work and neither is harassing them over multiple messages. Let them go about their business and save your energy for people who care about you.
Slow play is a classic sign of being ignored. When you send a text message, contact a buddy, or invite them to an event, they take an unusually long time to react. If you are genuinely neglected, you will be slow-played several times in a short amount of time.
If this happens just once, it's probably nothing to worry about. But if this continues for more than a few days, then you should probably call them out on their behavior.
They're ignoring you intentionally It's possible that your friend is ignoring you purposefully. Maybe they don't want to talk to you anymore, or maybe they just don't care about what you have to say. Either way, this should not be taken lightly. You may need to change your strategy if this is the case.
They're depressed/distressed You never want to see a friend suffer through depression or distress, so if you notice any changes in their behavior, give them a call or visit them soon after.
They may not seem like it at first, but many depressed people hide their feelings well. They may appear fine to you while they're ignoring you, but inside they're suffering and need someone to talk to.
Check in with them regularly If you're worried that your friend may be ignoring you, it's best to check in with them periodically.
There are concrete indicators that someone is avoiding you.
A single message or phone call is fine, but don't bombard them with texts like, "Why are you ignoring me?" "What went wrong?" or "Please speak with me!" These messages will not only irritate the person, but they may also make you appear desperate. It might be really difficult to refrain from attempting to remedy the situation right away. If you must send a message, try to do so in a way that doesn't interrupt your friend or family member while they are doing their thing.
If you want to get back at someone who has ignored you, text them first to let them know what you're going to do. For example, you could say something like, "I'm going to kick the chair out from under your feet." Or, if you want to show them someone else's reaction to them ignoring you, text a photo of someone crying. People love seeing others suffer and will feel sorry for you at once!
It's best to let these people go about their business without bothering them. Otherwise, you'll just end up annoying them even more than they already are.
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