"I've been to poly forums where some of them are discussing the duration of poly relationships." They claim that polyamorous partnerships often survive barely five years. According to one of them, monogamous marriages now last about seven years. If this is so, then perhaps polyamory is not for everyone. However, this does not take into account those who split up after a few years because it isn't working out, or because one or both people want to explore other relationships.
In my experience, the longer two people are willing to give each other time, the more likely it is that they will be able to work out their issues if they need to. As long as there are no children involved, there is no reason why a poly relationship can't last forever if both people are ready for it to do so. Of course, this doesn't mean that all poly relationships last forever, but it does show that it is possible.
It's also important to remember that just like in any other relationship, what works for one couple may not work for another. If you and your partner feel like the time has come to end it, then there is no reason to keep it from ending. Even if someone else wants to continue seeing either or both of you, it shouldn't affect your decision to go your separate ways.
Monogamy is not usually a consideration for those in open or polyamorous relationships. Both partners envision a future for themselves. People in committed relationships frequently envision themselves with their spouse a year, two years, five years, or more down the road. When they look at the world around them and the people in it, they don't see any reason why they could never have an affair and keep it a secret from their partner.
People in open relationships are expected to be honest about their status with other people. If one partner learns that another is interested in someone else, they should feel free to tell him or her without fear of retribution. Open relationships are not known for their secrecy, so if your partner doesn't want others to know about his or her affairs, then they aren't really open anyway.
Committed relationships require trust. It's difficult to maintain trust in someone who has already betrayed your confidence once. Consider how you would feel if someone you had just met told you that she was involved with another man and didn't think she would ever leave him. You wouldn't want this person as your friend or lover. Even if she promised you that everything would be all right, you wouldn't believe her.
In an open relationship, everyone is expected to be equally available to each other at all times.
The way you (and your partners) want your polyamorous relationship to function is essential. As a result, as with any other relationship, communication and mutual understanding are essential. How long do polyamorous partnerships last? The solution is totally dependent on you and your partners. Some poly couples say it takes about five years before you start seeing signs of stress wear away at the relationship.
You should consider how your partners will feel about your arrangement. Are they open to changing their views on marriage and committed relationships? If not, will this conflict cause problems for the relationship? Also think about your own needs. Does being in a poly relationship meet them? Or would another arrangement be better? Only you can answer these questions.
In conclusion, yes, polyamorous relationships are right for some people. It all depends on what you and your partners want from the relationship and how it fits into your lives today.
Polyamory is not a cure for those who feel that monogamy isn't exactly right for them, and it's certainly not for everyone, but it is conceivable for many individuals out there and can lead to long-lasting pleasure and love unlike any other.
The most important thing for anyone considering the idea of having more than one lover is that they understand that it requires serious commitment from everyone involved. It's easy to get caught up in the excitement of new experiences but ignoring the needs of your partner will only cause problems down the road. It's important to be honest with yourself and others from the beginning about what your relationship structure will be. Open communication is vital to making any relationship work.
It's also important to remember that not all love stories have a happy ending. Some people may end up being completely excluded from their partners' lives or even killed. Be sure that you're ready to deal with all sorts of consequences before entering into such a relationship.
At its core, polyamory is about freedom and choice. Everyone involved should feel like they can ask for anything they want and know that it will be given to them. That means that you cannot just go after every partner that comes along - you need to be comfortable with where things stand with each of them. If you aren't sure whether someone wants something more from you then don't assume it's not true.
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