However, if you want females to start asking you out and hope you say yes, you must be selective. It's not self-centered. You're merely being an alpha male who pursues his goals in life and demands nothing less than the best for himself.
It's all about making yourself attractive to women. If you do things that make other people feel uncomfortable then don't expect them to like you or want to get to know you any better.
The next time you go out, try not to do any of these 10 things. See what happens!
1. Telling inappropriate jokes: Most girls don't find men funny. In fact, they tend to avoid males who are known for their humor. So if you tell inappropriate jokes or act goofy, most girls will walk away from you.
2. Getting into fights: When you fight with others, they usually stop wanting to see you again. Even if you just scratched someone's car, they'll never talk to you again. So keep your arguments clean and only fight for good reasons. Otherwise, you might have to wait a long time before getting another date.
3. Smoking marijuana: Marijuana may seem like a harmless way to take stress off of your mind and body at first, but it can also cause you to do irrational things.
As a guy who has been in the dating scene for a long, I can speak for my fellow males when I say that asking a female out requires more than just like her. Life occurs, and I believe that in many situations, the guy (not you) feels the need to "get things in order" before being ready to date—regardless of how much he likes you.
When a guy develops feelings for you, he will want to chat to you all the time and as frequently as possible. He may not have a decent conversation starter on the tip of his tongue or know what to say to you. But he won't care, and it won't matter. He just wants to chat to you.
Of sure, a lady should approach a guy and ask him out. Anyone who says no is a moron and should not be dating. And, let's be honest, it's usually women who believe they shouldn't ask a guy out first. They're afraid that if they do, he'll ignore them or worse. That's not going to happen - if she doesn't want to hear what he has to say, then he won't waste his time telling her.
The only people who will be hurt if a girl asks a guy out first are the ones who don't know how to take "no" for an answer. If a guy isn't ready to date, then he doesn't need to listen to dates asking him out. He knows where he stands with girls and isn't going to risk his heart on someone who might not feel the same way about him.
Asking a guy out is the perfect way for him to see if you're interested in becoming more than just friends. It gives him a chance to look at you and figure out if he wants to get to know you better. Would you really want to give a guy your number and never find out if he called? So give a girl your number and see if she calls back.
When asking someone out, you must be upfront, brave, and confident. And you must understand — and completely believe — that rejection is not the end of the world. It's actually a positive thing if you're rejected. It means that you stood out from the crowd and made an impression.
Asking someone out requires confidence because you don't know what kind of response you're going to get. If they say no, that's great! If they say yes, that's great too! Just being able to take that risk and express your interest is half of winning someone over. The other half is showing them that you're confident enough to follow up after they've said no.
So if you want to ask someone out, first think about why you want to do this. Are you interested in them as a person? Once you know the reason why you're asking, then work on building up your confidence. Try talking to people more often or taking risks. Anything that makes you feel more comfortable with saying something new will help.
Asking someone out is hard but not impossible.
Because the world isn't ideal, there's a distinction to be made between like and chasing a female. "How come he didn't ask me out?" This subject is frequently posed to me by female acquaintances wanting a masculine perspective. The talk was great, and sparks appeared to fly, but then—-nothing, nothing. He may have given you a kiss on the hand, or an arm squeeze, but that's it. There was no further action taken.
The short answer is that he liked what he saw (or heard), but you weren't his type. Some girls like being asked out because it shows that the guy is interested. Other girls don't want to seem too easy or their other options will open up. Still others might not say yes immediately for many different reasons.
The long answer is that this all depends on the guy and how he feels about you. If he asks you out then he obviously wants to see you again. However, if he doesn't then that's just as good as saying no! Sometimes guys will ask out someone else instead. It's also possible that he's not sure if he likes you enough yet to ask you out. If this is the case then keep giving him attention until he takes the next step.