Don't give up and stay strong. You'll notice that he or she has been increasingly keen to hear from you sooner rather than later. As your ex becomes increasingly concerned about the prospect of you being gone permanently, they will increase their efforts to keep in touch with you. If they are serious about not letting you go, then they would never ever want you to leave them alone again.
He or she may try to get back at you by contacting your friends and family members. This is usually done through email or social media. Be sure to tell them about your ex's behavior so they don't talk about you with them. You don't want them to feel forced to help him or her find you.
If you think you might be able to work out a relationship where both of you are happy, then it's best to cut ties with your ex completely. Do not give them any reason to worry about you leaving them behind. Keep in mind that even though they may not have done anything wrong, it's still important for you to let them know that you aren't going to be coming back.
It's normal to be upset over someone breaking your heart, but don't forget to look after yourself as well. Have fun times with your friends and relax too! Don't spend all your time crying over your ex.
To stop stating, "I'm afraid to contact my ex," you must vow to no longer suffer as a result of the separation. The goal is to raise your head again and approach the person you want to be with. They don't want to be with someone who is miserable, constantly cries, or has a million questions.
As long as you remain stuck in the past, they will see you that way too. But once you take action, show some enthusiasm, and move forward, they will begin to wonder what happened to the person that made them so sad. If only they knew how much you had changed for the better!
So go ahead and write them a letter, text message, email...whatever form of communication you prefer. Tell them how much you've thought of them and wish them well on their own journey back to you. Remind them of all the good times you shared together and offer any assistance you can if they need it. Never forget that you two were meant to be together and you both deserve to find happiness again.
After you send off this letter/text/email, follow up with at least one more communication before stopping. This will help ensure that they know you're over them and not trying to steal their boyfriend/girlfriend, etc. Also, keep in mind that there may be some time where they don't respond at all so you'll have to decide on your own whether or not to continue contacting them.
That being said, before reaching out, make sure you've gotten closure on your split. "The greatest moment to contact an ex is when you've fully processed and recovered from the split," Moreck advises. To put it another way, share your scars, not your wounds.
If you have doubts about whether or not you're over your ex, then you aren't yet ready to move on. Your mission should be clear: You want to know that you've healed enough so that you won't hurt again if you get back together with your ex. If you haven't reached this point, then keep reading.
Now, let's talk about why you shouldn't reach out first. There are two main reasons: 1 You might trigger more pain in your relationship; 2 You risk making your ex feel like they have to take care of you too soon after the breakup.
Reaching out first means that you aren't over your ex yet. This could cause them to feel rejected, which could lead to more pain down the road. Also, if they choose to stay with you, then you'll be asking them to change who they are without knowing how you'll feel about this change once it happens.
Finally, waiting makes sense if your ex has been very cold since the breakup started. If they don't want to talk to you, then there's no point in bothering them.
What Should You Say to Your Ex After No Contact?
While you are not in contact, your ex will most certainly move on at some point. If you were together for 3 months or more, that's generally between 3 and 5 months after they broke up with you. You had nothing to lose by reaching out to them at that time if they hadn't left you for someone else. Either way, you're going to be fine.
If you were still close friends even though you were no longer dating, then you'll probably stay friends with your ex even after you break up with them. There's no need to contact them unless you have something important to say or ask them something.
However, if you broke up over a serious issue such as abuse, addiction, or mental illness; or if they didn't give you any indication that they wanted to keep seeing each other even though they had both moved on, then you shouldn't try to force the issue. Let them go with dignity and respect. Otherwise, you might make things worse by contacting or following them around like a lost puppy.
You should contact your ex once you've both decided it's time to move on. Sometimes people feel like they still need to tell their exes something before they can start moving on, but this is only torture for both of you.
So, if you want to contact your ex after breaking up, do it when you think it's appropriate.