When you and your brother were kids, your parents most likely interfered. They sent you to your rooms, told you to think about what you did to each other, and expected you to apologize to each other. This strategy worked most of the time, and whatever you battled about was ultimately forgotten. As adults, though, there are different ways you can deal with disputes between you and your brothers or sisters.
If one of you always starts fights, you should try not to participate, but if you do get involved, stay calm and avoid using force if you can. If someone has a tendency to push people's buttons, they should be careful not to do so with you.
If you're being bullied by a sibling, tell someone about the situation. You could talk with a friend or family member, or go to school officials. Make sure that you don't leave anyone in the room alone with the bully though, as this person could hurt them too.
The last thing you want to do is argue with your brother or sister. Even if you're right, arguing won't change anything, it will only make things worse. Try to resolve issues without fighting, whether it's about money, rules, or products. Fighting just adds more problems to problems; solve them quickly before they turn into larger issues.
Overall, you and your siblings need to learn how to deal with fights.
Please apologize to your sibling.
According to psychologist Tamar Chansky in the "Psychology Today" article "How to Apologize," if you played a role in the problem, confront it since ignoring it or blaming the situation on your sister is unlikely to get you anywhere. She suggests saying something like, "I'm sorry I yelled at you. It's just that I feel bad when you yell at me." This shows that you understand why she was angry with you and that you're willing to make changes to avoid causing her pain again.
If you want to apologize to someone without being punished, then you should follow these steps: 1 acknowledge the error 2 identify how it happened 3 explain what you will do to prevent this from happening again 4 express sorrow for the harm you have caused 5 ask for forgiveness 6 show appreciation 7 end on a high note.
The best way to apologize to your siblings is by admitting your mistake and committing not to repeat it. If you were too aggressive when reprimanding them, they may feel ignored if you only say sorry and never explain yourself. However, if you can learn from your mistake and keep things positive, your siblings will appreciate your effort.
Five things to do after you fight with your sibling:
It has nothing to do with your sibling's attitude toward you. Maintain a good, pleasant connection with your sister. Talk to your sibling about how your parents are mistreating you if they are old enough to comprehend. Seek their counsel and ask them to intervene on your behalf. Tell your siblings that you love them no matter what.
Siblings tend to look up to their older or younger siblings. Thus, unless your parent's actions are specifically directed at your younger or older sibling, don't worry about what they say or do. They are just trying to hurt the one they hate most - you.
If your parent's behavior is causing you too much pain then seek counseling from an expert in family dynamics such as a psychologist or counselor. Ask for suggestions on how to improve your relationship with your parent(s).
If your sibling has decided to detach themself despite your efforts to make apologies, recognize that they have a different view of the situation—something over which you have no influence. Then consider if the connection is worth fighting for or whether it is time to let it go.
The need to fight for a relationship with a brother or sister can be very strong, but it also can be very difficult to give up. Sometimes one or both of you just isn't going to get along, but there are ways to deal with this situation without causing more harm than good. The first thing you should know is that letting your sibling go is not the same as forgetting them. You may forget their name or face, but that doesn't mean you want them to stop hurting you by acting like they don't know what you went through. Even if you no longer care about what happens to them, it's important to let them know you're still their blood relative even if you no longer interact with them.
There are two main ways to handle the situation: you can fight for the relationship or you can let it go. If you choose to fight for the connection, then you will most likely need to do so in private unless someone else intervenes on behalf of the two of you. You should never argue with your sibling out of anger because this will only cause more problems.
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