We ended our relationship because it lacked trust, affection, and communication. Everyone claims that I ended this connection. This term does not bother me at all. It is preferable to be a heartbreaker than a cheater who cheats on your lover. What a moron I was to pick you as my lover. You betrayed me over and over again without even realizing it.
The lack of trust was apparent from the beginning. We met online and decided to meet in person after only knowing each other for a few weeks. When we did meet, we had a huge argument that resulted in me leaving his house. I didn't speak to him for three days! He said some stupid things after I broke up with him, but I don't think I really hurt his feelings too much. He just needed time to cool off.
After I stopped talking to him, he started texting another girl under the table during dinner with us. She found out about it and told me she was going to tell my husband unless I gave her money every month. I refused and then suddenly he changed his mind and started sending me money every week. This confused me because we hadn't talked since I broke up with him. I asked him why he was giving me money, but he wouldn't answer me.
After several more months of this behavior, I realized that he wasn't going to change and I didn't want to be a slave to get money every week, so I left him.
You might have avoided the obligation of breaking things up fairly by seeing someone else behind your partner's back. You may have continued to lie about your sentiments to your boyfriend or girlfriend. You might have deceived your partner by remaining in the relationship just for financial gain. You could also be feeling guilty because you don't want to lose contact with him or her.
In other words, you feel guilty because you're a coward. You might have liked having someone you can rely on, but that's not possible if you're together with your current partner. So instead you dump them and look for another way out. This is what makes people break up with their partners; they fear the pain of losing them even though that's what needs to be done. If you really love your partner, then it's time you let them go so you can find true love again.
One of the most unpleasant things a person can do is break up with a lover. It hurts to lose someone who had such a presence in your life, regardless of how long you dated them, whether you terminated things peacefully or not, whether the relationship was good or tumultuous. Breaking up is never easy, but there are ways to make it less painful for both parties.
If you and your boyfriend have been seeing each other for only a few months then you might want to give him time to get used to the idea. Breakups at this stage of the game usually cause more pain than anything else because he doesn't know what to expect next. He might believe that you will still be interested in him even though you don't want to see him anymore and this can lead to heartache as well as anger. Even if you come up with a good reason for breaking up with him (such as finding out that he has another girlfriend) he probably won't believe it and this will make breaking up even harder.
As hard as it may be, you should try to put yourself in his place for a moment. If this were me, I would want to know why my girlfriend wanted to end our relationship. Even if she gave me a good reason, I would still feel like she was cheating on me. This kind of trust is important in any relationship and without it, all ties are likely to be severed prematurely.
For example, your ex might have been extremely controlling, making you feel trapped in the relationship. Alternatively, your ex may not have been well-liked by your friends and family. These are both valid grounds for your decision to split things apart. Take care of yourself. If you're not getting the support you need from others, find a healthy way to cope.
Controlling people can be difficult to end relationships with. However, if your partner was constantly ordering you about and forcing their will on you, it's time to let them go. Put yourself first. Don't sacrifice your needs for someone else's happiness. You deserve better than that in a relationship.
If your ex wasn't well-liked by your friends and family, this is also a reason to end things. Your loved ones should be your number one priority, so don't be afraid to ask them what they think of your ex. Sometimes we keep relationships with unhappy partners because we want to protect them from being hurt again. But the truth is that everyone needs to be protected from toxic people.
Finally, consider your reasons for breaking up. Was it because he/she broke your heart? Did they treat you with disrespect? Were they unreliable? If so, you should start looking for another partner to share your life with. It's important to look within before making any decisions that will impact your mental health.