Why did I not connect with my husband when I first got married?

You don't have a connection with your hubby. When you first married, you most likely felt understood, heard, and connected to your spouse. Time passes, and the stress of daily life with kids, jobs, money, and a house all take their toll... and you realize you're no longer connected. You've grown apart.

It's natural at some point in every marriage to feel like you're living separate lives. But if this feeling of disconnection is lingering after years of marriage, it may be time to look into it.

There are many reasons why people find themselves disconnected from their spouses after marrying them. Some common ones include:

- Jobs can cause a strain on marriages. If one spouse is working long hours while the other is taking care of the home and children, there won't be much time or energy left over for connecting with each other.

- In more traditional marriages, women often give up their careers to stay home with the children. When they return to work, they may feel so far removed from their husbands that they can't communicate how they really feel.

- In open relationships, couples may see each other only during those times when there are no others involved. Because love and communication aren't always top priorities in these marriages, they may find themselves disconnected once the affair comes to an end and they have to go back to being just friends.

Why do I feel like I have nothing in common with my husband?

Many of your problems may be caused by your inability to communicate effectively with your partner. If you are feeling disconnected from your relationship and believe that you no longer have anything in common, one of the first things you should consider is addressing your doubts and concerns to your husband.

Have a Conversation With Your Partner

The most effective way to resolve issues between you is to have a conversation with your partner and express your thoughts and feelings honestly. Try not to judge each other but rather discuss each issue separately without any pre-conceived ideas or judgments. This will help you both understand what the other is going through more clearly and will show you that you do have something in common after all.

Do Not Let Problems Build Up Inside You

If you do not address issues that come up in your relationship prematurely, they can cause great stress for both of you. This can lead to arguments over small things which would otherwise have been resolved peacefully. It is important not to let these problems build up inside you because eventually they will become big enough to break down your relationship completely.

Communicate On Important Issues Early On

It is very important that you communicate on important issues early on in your marriage. For example, if there is a problem with your finances, it is best to talk about it before it becomes too big of an issue.

About Article Author

Jessica Mountain

Jessica Mountain is a relationship counsellor with a degree in psychology and some years of experience under her belt. She has seen it all, from the happiest couples to those who are contemplating divorce - she knows what works and what doesn't work when it comes to relationships. Jessica's approach is grounded in compassion, empathy, mindfulness, acceptance, and understanding.